Her show may be called My Life on the D List, but Kathy Griffin is at the top of our Real Beauty list. With poignant honesty and unparalleled humor, the two-time Emmy Award winning comedian, actress and personality spoke with us about her insecurities, what she wishes she knew about beauty before plastic surgery and why we need to celebrate inner beauty.
We sat down with Kathy Griffin and asked her to weigh in on real beauty.
What do you think makes someone beautiful?
I define beauty by what is attractive. And that’s why I just think whatever guy I’m going out with is the most handsome man in the world. So, I don’t get when girls think like “this guys hot or not hot.” I always think the person who’s most attractive is who is attractive to you for whatever qualities – and sometimes it’s physical, for me usually it’s not, but I just think it’s what attracts another person to you. You know, sometimes it’s eyes, sometimes it’s a gesture. I don’t know, but it’s just whatever attracts you.
How do you deal with the pressure for body perfection in our culture?
Ugh, it kills me. I’m hungry and bitter. I’m hungry and bitter every day of my life. While I’m looking at you, I’m thinking of doughnuts. It’s not personal, but I wish that this was a doughnut bar, because that’s what makes me happy. So, it’s a total struggle. I mean, you know, I remember the first time I ever saw someone on television in person, I couldn’t believe how tiny they were, and the whole thing about the camera adding 10 pounds, it’s really true. I mean, some of these people, I don’t know how they support their torsos they’re so thin; I don’t know how they maintain their balance they’re so thin.
If you could give your younger self advice about beauty, what would it be?
Soooo much. I wish I knew soooo much. I guess the number one thing is: people that you think are really noticing something about your imperfections, they’re really not. Most people really do kinda make everything about themselves, or they have their own thing going on, or their own issues. Look, I had two nose jobs. I really thought that people were looking at me and honestly thinking about my fucking nose. Now that I look back on it, I go, “Oh my god. I broke my nose twice.” I volunteered to break my nose twice because I really, in my crazy head, I thought that people cared. And they don’t.
People: whatever your imperfection, you think someone’s going to notice that, but they really don’t, they really don’t.
I would tell my younger self to relax, you’re stressing about sh*t that nobody really cares about, and you’re fine. Unless you have food in your teeth, you look fine, go on with your day. I would tell my younger self, you know, focus on the other stuff. You know, as I get older, I see different things in men and women that are attractive that I didn’t really catch when I was younger. And, I’m speaking of guys, of course. But I see a guy now with maybe a little bit of a beer gut, or whatever, but, for whatever reason, if I’m sleeping with him, he’s the most handsome man in the world.
What’s your one, can’t-live-without-it beauty product?
Vaseline. I know, very Tyra, very Tyra. I always have this weird thing in my head where I think I’m going to be on Survivor, which I never would. But you know how they let you have one thing? I always think my thing would be Vaseline. I use it for lips because my lips get chapped, I put it under my eyes, you can use it for moisturizer, you know, if you have to, you can use it on your hands… It’s just that old school, Forest Park, Illinois, raised right, Midwestern thing. I should say La Mer Crème, because it’s more A-list, but I’m afraid it’s Vaseline.