By Alexis Meads
For so many years, I learned to accept the knot in my stomach that came with anxiety.
Of course, I never thought that I had a problem. I just accepted the “short-of-breath” feeling that came with a mile-long “to do” list, allowing my self-care to go out the window and worrying about every little thing.
Thoughts would race through my head such as “oh my God I wish I hadn’t said that” to waking up in the middle of the night thinking “did I remember to send my boss an email?”
All of these are symptoms of anxiety. And as women today try to do more, be more, earn more and love more – anxiety seems almost unavoidable.
I’ve heard depression described as living in the past, where anxiety is derived from living in the future. With anxiety we often put together “what-if” scenarios rather than connecting to the present moment and the reality of a situation.
Of course, the more I worried the less I was actually able to do anything about it. The irony is that only when we’re feeling calm, happy and grounded can we truly be productive without diminishing our quality of life. And I want that for you – to be a peaceful and alive creator of your own life.
It’s a process, but we can only do this through conscious awareness and a solid practice of self-love with these 8 tips for managing anxiety.
8 Tips for Managing Anxiety:
- Sleep: Seems too simple, right? But honestly you cannot underestimate its benefits and how it can make you feel calmer and generally more in control of your life.
- Daily Exercise: Get your body moving! Yoga is powerful at taming anxiety mentally and physically, but any exercise that feels fun for you is A-OK.
- Meditation: Like yoga, meditation is brilliant at detaching from anxious trains of thought. Just sitting still and remembering that in the present moment there is nothing to fear is key.
- Acceptance: Accepting a situation (and yourself) can be enormously liberating. It also gives you the best chance of healing.
- Drop the coffee: Stimulants are one of the biggest no-no’s for those who suffer from anxiety. Try to reduce all caffeine from your daily diet until you can get a feel for what life is like without it. You may feel a lot less stressed!
- This too shall pass: Saying this phrase helps me a lot. A bout of anxiety does not last for long. If you have the presence of mind to recognize anxiety for what it is when it’s happening – know that “this too shall pass”.
- Talk to others: Talking it out with someone, either a coach or someone who understands what you are going through is so important. Know that you are not alone or have to do it all by yourself. It’s OK to ask for help.
- Connect to yourself: Above all be really kind and patient with yourself. Frustration as well as pushing yourself are your worst enemies and may bring on old feelings of anxiety. Treat yourself as you would someone you love. Compassion for yourself is the hardest of all but the most deserved of all.