How To Get Over A Breakup, Healthfully
You’re heart broken. We get it. But before you let this breakup break you, read on.
Here are 9 healthy ways to get over a breakup for a healthier, happier you.
Breakup Healthfully: 9 Tips
The grieving process is often ignored in articles and advice on getting over an ex. Sure, it’s great if you can just move right on and see the relationship for what it was: great while it lasted, with an appreciation for the experience, all the while ready to move on. But, assuming that’s not the case (don’t worry: it’s probably not the case!), it’s okay to grieve. You don’t need to jump into the next steps until you’re ready for them. Instead, feel free to mourn the loss. That all said, please do be sure to keep this all in perspective. Don’t skip your BFF’s engagement party because you can’t get out of your own way. Do come home and eat a pint ice cream right after. #KiddingNotKidding
Schedule Girl Dates.
You probably aren’t up for (or ready for!) jumping back into the romantic dating game, but that doesn’t mean you should put your social life on hold. Instead, schedule girl dates either with your current besties or that new girl you’ve become friendly with at the gym. The key here: don’t use it as a therapy session, do use it to keep busy and positive!
Consider Chatting With A Pro.
Really feeling down in the dumps? Your friends may not be the best people for you to unload it all on. Not because they don’t want to be there for you, but because they may not be able to provide you with the support you need. Need someone to talk to? Considering finding a professional coach or therapist who can help.
Rediscover An Old Hobby.
Have an old hobby you haven’t indulged in for a while. Now’s the time! Whether it’s picking up a paint brush you haven’t touched in years or taking a cooking class (ya know: the one your ex was not into!), take this time to rediscover something that makes you happy.
Focus On YOU!
Getting out of a relationship likely freed up quite a bit of your time. Take that time and use it to focus on diving into who you are, what you’re looking for, and what your ideal future looks like. Then manifest that shit!
Take yourself out to lunch, go solo to a movie, or check out that new museum you’ve been wanting to go to. All. By. Yourself. Here’s the deal, you need to get comfortable with YOU and only you. Without distractions. Just solo. It will be awkward at first, but eventually you’ll find comfort in yourself because here’s the deal: if you don’t want to date yourself, you’re not ready for someone to date you either.
Focus On The Positives.
Make a list of the lessons learned either in the relationship or the breakup. Write down how this experience has made you a better person or better prepared you for your next relationship. Focus on those things, instead of the loss.
Write It Down, Get It Out.
This might sound counter to the “focus on the positives” (above) but write it ALL down (just in a separate place). Dump your thoughts and feelings onto paper to get them out of your head. A friend used to say, “get out of your own head like it’s a bad neighborhood” – and she’s right! Just free write and see what happens. It will be cathartic so repeat as needed.
Block Social Media.
There is no reason to online stalk an ex. Ever. No matter how tempting it is. Block him/her or at least unfollow. You can’t possibly move on when you’re overanalyzing your ex’s life. It will be hard, but it’s worth it. You can always re-friend or follow later on when you’ve emotionally moved on.
Imagine The Future.
Spend some time thinking about the future (when you’re well over this breakup, as hard as that may seem right now). Get clear on what you want (and don’t want) and what that life looks like. Meditated on it. Own it.
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