You see it so clearly when it’s your best friend who’s in a relationship that’s not affording her the opportunity to be her best, but when we’re in the throws of love, it’s all too easy to ignore (and sometimes impossible to even see) the signs that things could be better until heartbreak is inevitable and the risk of leaving seems greater than that of staying. Sure, your chemistry is great in the beginning (if you are lucky, anyway!) but as the heat simmers, too many of us hold on tighter instead of bowing out gracefully. Does this sound like you or someone you know? Well then keep reading Beauty Bean-er because we have compiled 5 signs to know a relationship isn’t right for you and once you read this you might be getting your fabulous single life back!
5 Signs a Relationship isn’t Right for You
Your Lives Don’t Mesh Well…or at All. If you aren’t included when your partner is hanging out with his or her friends, this could be a sign that the relationship is not right for you. While your lives shouldn’t be co-dependant, and you should (of course!) be doing things independently, it’s essential that you experience each other’s lives together. Whether it be a family dinner or a fun brunch with friends, you should be – and feel – included and want to do the same.
You’re Not Being Supportive. Yes, you read that right. We said supportive, not supported! So, ladies, we know that having a supportive partner is the goal, but do you support in return? Be honest, because so many of us settle for someone who is supporting us even when we’re not doing the same. And while we could say you need to get on the bandwagon and support your partner, it’s not that simple. Rather, it’s essential that you be inspired by the life your partner leads so that you want to support him or her. And if you don’t? Well, it could be a big sign that your partner’s life choices and goals do not align with yours.
You’re on Different Road Maps. If you’re interested in your relationship following a certain trajectory (engagement, marriage, kids, retirement on Lake Como a la George Clooney), make sure your partner is on the same page. And if you’re not, be at peace with that and move on. Not sure? Ask! By getting clear and letting go of the fear, you can either choose to alter your path or move on sooner rather than later. Just remember: never expect to be able to change someone else’s chosen road map.
Haunting Habits. If you’re in a relationship with someone whose habits are so completely against who you are, stop convincing yourself it is ok or that they will change. Because it’s not and they won’t. Whether you are a vegan and your man is a hunter or you’d rather not drink alcohol but your significant other goes to happy hour every day, these differences can cause a huge shift in the connection and stability in your relationship and should not be glossed over.
I’m Scared of Lonely. We so often hear friends say they can’t initiate a breakup because their partner has become such a big part of their life and they are afraid of how lonely they’ll feel. Don’t get us wrong, being alone can be a challenge if you aren’t used to it, but it gets easier. Plus, it is an amazing opportunity for you to incorporate things in to your life that you were neglecting before, like dinner with your BFF or the gym!
We get that breaking up is hard to do, but more then that we know that staying in a relationship that isn’t right for you can be damaging to your self-esteem and a complete waste of your precious time. Still not sure if your relationship is right for you? Leave a comment below and we’ll help guide you through it!
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